Protect Yourself

Staying safe


At home

  • Put aside emergency money.
  • Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows or stairwell work best.
  • Decide and plan for where you will go if you have to leave home, even if you don’t think you will need to leave.
  • Have an extra set of keys along with a packed bag ready to go in a safe but accessible location.
  • Memorize, or program into your cell phone, our 24 Hour Hotline number: (203) 622-0003
  • Review your safety plan on a regular basis.

At work

  • Give a copy of your restraining or protective order to your boss and trusted co-workers.
  • Tell your boss and co-workers to call the police if they see your abuser at your workplace.

In your neighborhood

  • Identify a trusted neighbor you can tell about the violence.
  • Ask the neighbor that they call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home.
  • Devise a code word with your neighbor so they know when to call the police.


  • Try to use a safe computer that your abuser doesn’t have direct or remote (hacking) access to.
  • If you are being monitored, don’t suddenly delete your entire internet history if you don’t normally do it. It’s impossible to delete or clear all of the “footprints” of your computer or online activity.
  • Remember, computers can store a lot of private information about you, such as your emails, bank account information, sites you’ve visited, etc.
  • Create an email address that doesn’t use your full name and is not overly identifying.
  • Change passwords to your existing online accounts, such as your email and bank accounts.
  • Be sure to use a combination of letters, numbers and symbols when creating a password.
  • Read more helpful tips about computer safety here